My Darkest Day

My Darkest Day

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Nancy R My darkest day February 12, 2010 was one of the worst and most unforgettable days of my life. My twelve year old niece was found using drugs. I was in total disbelief and I didn’t know what to do. My niece had been using drugs for months and it went undetected. How could the family miss the signs? How could the attitude changes go unnoticed? I realized that her attitude was changing but I thought it was normal teenage hormonal changes but I was wrong. I felt as if I had lost everything that I ever worked for. After all the drama, I had to sit her down to have that scary discussion about the reasons that led to her drug use.

During that talk, my niece broke down and cried uncontrollably. At that moment all I could do was cry with her while holding her tightly in my arms. Faith had been raped by her mother’s friend and molested by her step-father. I understood at that moment that she felt helpless and she was looking for comfort. Faith was afraid to approach anyone with the information because the men had told her that no one would believe her.

I could not process the thought of an adult man seeking pleasure in a twelve year old girl. My mind started to race with negative thoughts initially.I wanted to kill them, I wanted to run them over with my car, and I wanted to torture them. I couldn’t believe that her innocence was taken away from her by people we considered family. I couldn’t believe that she went through the agony alone. At this point, I didn’t know who to trust around her or even my own child.

As we sat there in her room, I was really lost for words because I didn’t know how to approach the situation. Faith’s mother, Ginou, found her snorting cocaine in the bathroom. She was passed out on the floor high and she smelled like alcohol.A part of me wanted to blame her mother for it all, because if she had paid more attention to her maybe this wouldn’t have gotten this far.

But then again, I didn’t want to start playing the blaming game. Faith was a very intelligent girl; she always made the honor roll and was even promoted to a higher grade. The things these men did to her haunted her every day of her life since it happened. She felt like she would never amount to anything because of what happened she felt like she would be called a whore if she told anyone what ad happened.

After speaking to Faith, I decided to take her home with me for the weekend. Ginou still didn’t know what was going on and the reason Faith was using drugs. When we got to my house, I gathered her things and gave her supplies to get in the shower and get ready for bed. I then decided to go back and have a talk with her mother. When I reached back

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to Ginou’s house, I found her cursing and yelling outside. When I approached her, she was fussing about the way she found Faith and insinuating that it was just a cry for attention.

I was extremely furious at the things I was hearing her say about my niece and not even sitting to question what would really lead to this. Her husband was right along with her adding on to the foolishness as well. I asked her to come to the car so we can talk about what had just happened. I started to question Ginou about her husband and the way he was around Faith. She was telling me how much he loves Faith so much and how he always speaks so highly of her. I didn’t know how to come out and say it, but I told Ginou that her husband had molested Faith and so did her male friend that was in the house with them.This wasn’t easy for me; the tears wouldn’t stop falling from my eyes I was so angry.

She begins yelling and crying, I tried calming her down but nothing was helping. Her husband to the car demanding to know what was being said. I didn’t even answer him, I turned around and gave him a dirty look, and he immediately walked away. After she calmed down, she tried to gain composure to talk to me. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing once she started talking. Ginou was saying that she didn’t believe Faith or anything that I was telling her, she claimed her husband would never do such a thing.

She started telling me that she found Faith in the room having sex before with another boy. Ginou started to blame my brother, which is Faith’s father, for the things that were happening, I was in total shock, I couldn’t talk I was lost for words after hearing this lady take up for her husband and blame her daughter. I knew deep down inside that Faith was telling the truth. I just couldn’t believe that Ginou was blaming my brother for the things that happened. My brother was in jail and hasn’t really been a part of Faith’s life because of Ginou not allowing him to be.

She recently started allowing us to come around Faith. When she was done talking, I just told her I have to go and that I’ll keep Faith for the weekend or maybe even the upcoming week. I was just so disgusted by the things she was saying about her own daughter, they were horrible. I couldn’t believe this was happening to my niece, I usually see things like this on TV shows but now it’s actually going on in my family.

I got home and found Fait sitting on the couch listening to music, I asked her if she wanted to talk because I know she was embarrassed and needed someone to talk to.My niece began telling me about the things that has happened and that drugs

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were the only thing that helped her clear her mind. She told me she was popping ecstasy pills, snorting cocaine, smoking weed and drinking alcohol. Faith was doing this because she wanted to forget about the things that happened to her. She told me that she dreamt about what they did to her every night; it was so hard for her to sleep because of these nightmares.

I didn’t want to tell her what happened when I spoke to her mom, which would just hurt her even more. The next day I contacted my sister Tania, and told her about what happened.We met up and Tania contacted a friend of hers who worked for the Coral Springs police department.

When he came, we explained everything to him and gave him all the information he needed. I came home and spoke to Faith about what her mother said. She was hysterical and started crying and saying she was going to kill herself.

I told her that we contacted the police and that the officer just wanted to ask her a few questions, she didn’t have a problem talking to the officer after I convinced her and reassure her that I will be there. The police went to Ginou’s house and arrested her husband and his friend.After hours of interrogating them, they finally admitted to molesting Faith more than once on different occasions and sometimes they did it together. Ginou couldn’t believe what she was hearing; she didn’t want it to be true but unfortunately it was. After the two men were arrested I kept Faith for a while and we got her into a drug program and paid for her counseling. I know this is a lot for a 12 year old to go through.

Her mother came and spoke to her letting her know how sorry she was for everything and not noticing the signs of what was going on.The men were sentenced to jail time and pending deportation. Now, Faith is a senior in high school about to graduate and we are as close as we’ve ever been. I am just glad that those people are out her life and she can move on. She is still getting counseling when needed because she has some episodes where she remembers all the things and they make her lose it.

I know how difficult it was for my family to go through this and I really don’t wish it on anyone else, but unfortunately it happens every day to a young girl and as a parent it is essential that we pay attention to these signs.

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